What is cunnilingus? It is the sexual act of using oral (lips and tongue) to simulate female genitals performed by a person, man or woman, on the vulva and vagina. The clitoris is the most sexually sensitive part of the human female genitalia.
Its direct stimulation will arouse a woman, allowing her to reach orgasm more easily and frequently than other sexual stimulation.
To perform cunnilingus, you only use your lips and tongue; true cunnilingus does not incorporate other techniques or toys. People performing cunnilingus will lick the vulva and vagina using their tongues to stimulate the genital tissues of the female receiving it. The term cunnilingus means licking of the vulva. The word is derived from the Latin words for the vulva (cunnus) and the verb "to lick" (lingō).
Most people refer to cunnilingus as "carpet munching", "going down", "muff diving", or "giving lips service."
What involves giving great cunnilingus?
When giving great oral sex, a one-size-fits-all methodology does not apply. Each woman is similar in anatomy, but the stimulation level varies greatly. Some women might be highly sensitive around their clitoris and only on their clitoris. Other women are sensitive to the vaginal walls and labia, and clitoris. One constant thing is the focal point will be on stimulating the clitoris.
To gain maximum stimulation of female genitals, licking should be constant. Do not think about running your tongue or lips everywhere. This can be used at the start to stimulate a woman and get her aroused. After an initial start and getting her aroused, you need to focus on one area specifically. It would help if you concentrated on the clitoris; licking should be constant and in the same direction—like liking a lollypop, constantly licking over the same area.
Focusing on one area with a repeat pattern allows a woman to build up constant stimulation and climax—allowing her to achieve an orgasm through clitoral stimulation.
What to avoid during cunnilingus?
- Don't write letters with your tongue; it's a waste of time and reduces stimulation; this can be done as an initial step for arousal but not to achieve a climax.
- Do not use sugary products such as honey or syrup on the vulva and vagina to make it taste better, as these can promote yeast growth through things out of balance.
When giving oral sex, ask your partner what she likes and what she feels most when licking her vulva. Great oral sex starts with communicating and letting each other know what works for them. Once you start, explore different areas of the vulva and vagina, and find the spots that feel most intense to stimulation. And gradually build up stimulating those areas, culminating with direct clitoral stimulation; do not explore other areas after this has been initiated. Keep it constant and follow the same licking pattern until a climax has been reached.
Most women reach climax and orgasm within 5 to 10 minutes of cunnilingus activity once direct clitoral licking has been initiated.
Cunnilingus should be an enjoyable sex act; both should feel comfortable and get pleasure from it. Women tend to climax from cunnilingus faster than through intercourse, and most women will reach orgasm with oral stimulation, which does not always happen with intercourse. Since you are stimulating the clitoris directly, a woman will reach orgasm. With intercourse, the clitoral stimulation is reduced based on your position, and many women do not reach orgasm.
Therefore, many women enjoy cunnilingus; it's direct and hits the desired spots that are highly sensitive. The only drawback is that not everyone feels comfortable giving or receiving. Couples must explore what works for them and if they wish to incorporate this into their relationship.
