I have been married to my husband for over eight years now; I love him with all my heart and things are going well most of the time. But our love life has been sort of slow and dull at times; it feels like a routine doing the same things over and over.
We have talked about how to spice things up between us, but it still comes down to the same in the end. Sort of like falling back to the same routine, having sex once every two weeks or longer.
For several months, whenever I would go out, I found myself looking at other men and getting excited at the prospect of being with someone else and found myself fantasizing about them. Imagine for yourself what would it be like to meet someone new and feel all the emotions you have at the start of a relationship. Feeling the butterflies in your stomach at the excitement of meeting someone new and interesting. The thrill and fear of getting naked with someone new and the thoughts of being penetrated by a different man than the one you routinely have sex with.
All of these thoughts would get me really excited and horny and I personally started feeling like I wanted to try it one day. I had an enormous desire and want to go out on a date with someone new and explore these feelings once again. But I did not want to leave my husband; I love him even though I wanted to experience someone new with another man. And there I found myself thinking about how I can have both things, a safe and protective relationship with my husband and a way to prevent anything from damaging our love. At the same time, I wanted to achieve my goal, to go out and date another man, have sex, and experience new feelings and emotions with someone else.
I started out playing with my husband, sort of planting a seed by telling him made-up sex stories and fantasies of men watching their wives having sex with other men. He gradually was getting aroused when I would tell him fantasies about me going out and getting a guy in a bar to kiss him and have sex with another guy. I could start feeling him become erect with more and more of these fantasies I told him about and it became something we did when we had sex to get us turned on.
One time I suggested that it would be interesting if I got a boyfriend and film us having sex so when I got home, he could watch us fucking together. He got really horny and gave me a good fuck that night. From there on, he started sharing similar fantasies and was getting excited about the prospect of me getting into bed with someone else. I think this was the turning point for me and him and I actually thought I might be getting my way to having a relationship with another man with the consent of my husband.
Several more months went by and we were having sex with these fantasies; it really got us turned on and excited. One day I told my husband to take some sexy photos of me because I wanted to open an online dating profile to see what type of men would reply to my ad. I was a bit nervous when I asked him to take the photos; my voice cracked up a bit. And to my relief, he agreed to help me take photos and said it was okay for me to open a dating profile.
A couple of weeks went by and I started chatting with a nice man in his 40s, a few years older than me. Just like I prefer, older, mature men who know how to please a woman. We found ourselves talking a lot more each day, sending messages on a daily routine. My husband knew I was chatting with him daily and respected my space. Never once asked to see my phone, although he did ask how things were going and if I was enjoying talking to another man. I always told him the truth, that I truly enjoyed it, and shared the fantasies I was having with this other guy. He was married also, but separated, with no real relationship with his wife.
Then the opportunity came up for us to have our first date, a dinner date. It has been years since I got dressed up to go out on a date; I felt so nervous. I told my husband and he said it was okay, just have a dinner date and we will see what goes on from there. See if there is any jealousy that can come up and cause us to fight or feel uncomfortable. And we agreed that we would call it quits instantly if someone felt uncomfortable.
I went out on my date; it was strange for me at the beginning; I felt so nervous at the start of the date. We talked and talked all evening and had a wonderful time. Then came the time to go back home; I felt that I was going to get kissed and it did happen. It felt so good kissing this other man, I wasn't sure I should have felt this way, but I did. It was one of the most amazing kisses I have felt in a long time; it made me a bit emotional.
I went home and sat down with my husband to tell him how my date went. He was so sweet, he listened as I shared the events of the night. He was happy for me that I was feeling happy and excited about my date. We talked about our feelings and we talked about the prospect of another date with him. My husband was okay with it and felt comfortable with me and our relationship allowing men to see me again.
The next time I was going to go out on a date with this man, I decided that it would be a good idea to buy some condoms just in case things got hot and heavy. I felt a connection and was really horny, wanting to have sex with someone new. The following weekend I told my husband I had another date with this man. And I got his consent to go out and have a lovely evening with him.
On this date, things were fun; we had dinner, and after dinner, we danced a little and did a lot of kissing. I could not hold back on my primal instincts. I was feeling hot, feeling like I wanted to have sex and he was in the same position. We went to a hotel and I was as nervous as hell, my body was trembling. He started taking my clothes off and then I found myself naked in front of another man I had just met a few days back. Then he started removing his clothes; I wanted to see what he was packing down there.
When his pants came down, his trousers started rising; he was getting an erection. Then out came his cock; I could not stop staring and feeling all aroused. His cock was larger than my husband's and I grasped it with my hand and started stroking it. It felt so good to touch it and I could feel all wet in my pussy. I slid a condom over his penis and laid him down on the bed. He came over to me and started kissing me; I could feel his cock touching my pussy. Then he slipped inside of me; I had so many mixed feelings going through me. I wanted this moment for a long time, to experience having sex with someone new.
It was truly an emotional experience for me; sex was amazing with this man, or maybe because it was with someone new. I felt more than I had felt with my husband and enjoyed this amazing experience. Just felt him thrust his penis in and out until I reached the climax; I had an orgasm with my first sexual experience outside of my husband. I think it had a lot to do with the fact that I was really excited and aroused to have sex with someone different.
Heading home, I was thinking about how I was going to tell my husband that I had sex with this man. I did not even tell him I had bought some condoms just in case something did happen. Was it too soon for me to have sex and was it wrong to have sex without telling my husband this was going to happen? All of this went through my head while driving home. On the way home, I decided it would be best to tell my husband the truth. After all, it was a fantasy for both of us now and we decided to be honest with each other to protect our relationship.
The following morning, we got up, had breakfast, and shortly after we started talking about my date. I told him that something happened that night that was not planned. That we got carried away and we had sex that night and I was afraid that it would ruin our relationship. My husband came over to me and hugged me, comforting me at that moment and telling me everything was alright. He told me to tell him everything that went down and how I felt having intercourse with another man. He was very understanding. After telling him all the events, he was aroused, he had a nice erection going on. Turns out we had a great time having sex that morning and it felt like something new and exciting.
From that time on, I continued seeing this other man for a while, dating him, and having a lot of sex. My sex drive went way up and my husband benefited from it too. We found ourselves enjoying sex a lot more and we even talk about me having a husband and boyfriend and it's normal. No feeling ashamed, and most importantly, it's not something we are hiding from each other. This is part of our relationship and we love it; it works for us. I love the fact that I can have a boyfriend and my husband is perfectly fine with it. And I can honestly say that our lives and relationships have gotten stronger.
The best advice I can give another woman who wishes to try this is to simply be honest about it, plant a seed and grow the fantasy from there. Make sure to talk openly to your husband and put in safeguards to prevent problems. The last thing you want is to ruin your relationship with your husband. Boyfriends or girlfriends can come and go, but the one you truly love is the one you need to protect if you want to be a hotwife.
So have fun, enjoy the new emotions and experiences, and best of all, enjoy the sex.
